April 22, 2014 § Leave a comment
Don’t waste your time trying to change people because you can’t! Instead, change your expectations. One of the best and worst things about me is that I love HARD! Naive? Yes. Wise? Maybe even more so. But people are human and as a result, we have many flaws and imperfections. Although sometimes people don’t intend to hurt you, they will. It is inevitable. To save myself from the disappointment that comes with human nature, I am learning to change my expectations. Christ is constant and always will be. His grace is sufficient and with all my trust in him, how can I falter?
“I know my plans for you,” says The Lord, “plans to prosper and not harm you.”
I will not waiver with Christ as my solid rock!
April 6, 2014 § Leave a comment
Americans largely misunderstand affirmative action, it’s rationale, implications and effects. If we work together to educate the public about the particulars, perhaps we will have less Fisher v. University of Texas’ and other unnecessary shit uninformed people bother us about.
The Face of Affirmative Action
According to Merriam Webster, Affirmative Action is defined as: the practice of improving the educational and job opportunities of members of groups that have not been treated fairly in the past because of their race, sex, etc. So why is it that black people are always assumed to be the face of affirmative action? (*cough cough* Abigail Fisher) Seriously. You never hear anyone complaining about why “such and such a woman” received a position solely because she is a woman. In fact, women are by far the largest beneficiaries of affirmative action- specifically white women! Let’s throw her face on a poster!
Beneficiaries of Affirmative Action
Let me start off by saying that I am NOT a beneficiary of affirmative action. Instead, everyone who has gotten an opportunity to know me through this racial justice program is a beneficiary. The current framing of affirmative action is all wrong. Why is it made to seem like I am receiving some golden fucking ticket instead of what’s rightfully mine? This isn’t some prize we are winning at a fair, but a right to live just as the privileged do (or so they tell us).
We do have allies of different races that are also fighting the good fight with us. For those who truly are interested in seeing discrimination end, I think it is important for us to work with them. I know. It’s very difficult to be vulnerable with people outside of our own, but there are good people out there who genuinely care and want to help. However, I do think it is just as important for them to seek our guidance as it is for us to give it. Just the other day I was reading status comments on my white, extremely liberal classmate’s Facebook page. He was hard down defending Nick Cannon and his “whiteface.” I get it, whiteface doesn’t have the historical implications that blackface does. White people have never been systemically discriminated against or subjected to half of the bullshit that black people have. However, I don’t want to live in a world where white people can’t reasonably be offended. Hell, I was offended. Did it amount to blackface or even racism? Absolutely not. But it definitely was offensive and insensitive (it also made me feel some type of way because it opened the door for many ignorant folk to now believe that blackface is okay). Most of the black people I know felt the same. My white liberal friend thought he was doing the right thing and arguing “our side” when in fact he wasn’t. This is why we need to work with them.
Ending Affirmative Action
Honestly, the need for affirmative action starts before birth. Black women are less likely to have access to healthcare but are more likely to live in underprivileged areas with lackluster public education schools. Black men seem to be doomed to a life full of stops and frisks and senseless murders. (Re: Trayvon Martin & Jordan Davis.) It is the root of the problem that needs to be addressed. Until these inequalities are equalized, there will alwaysl be a need for affirmative action. So, when will there cease to be a need for affirmative action? Ohhh…about five or so years after racial discrimination ends (lawls)…
April 2, 2014 § Leave a comment
That’s what Tracy Christian, TCA Jed Root talent agent believes. And by “too black,” she isn’t referring to the stereotypical meaning of the phrase dealing with personality traits and cultural definition (I won’t delve into how problematic that theory is here). But rather, she is referring to her skin tone.
Today on the train, I finally got a chance to read the Hollywood Reporter’s recent article about Lupita Nyong’o. The premise of the article is that while all black women face difficult times getting prominent movie roles, dark skinned actresses such as Lupita are doomed to play roles such as that of Octavia Spencer in The Help or Gabby Sidibe in Precious. Our light skinned counterparts, such as Halle Berry and Thandie Newton, obtain the more popular roles and are allowed to exercise more creative freedom.
For the most part, I agree with the article. Since the dawn of time, dark skinned women have been forced to play roles that limit our character and flexibility as people. I do not think it is wholly because America is able to “see themselves” better in lighter skinned actresses as Tracy Christian suggests, but because we as a society have been programmed to believe that that “look” is the only definition of beauty. Lupita has been praised for her jaw dropping good lucks, her intellect, her inability to own any red carpet she walks on and her charming demeanor among other things. Query: is her beauty being praised because it is “exotic?” Or is it simply because she is a beautiful woman? Should we care? These are all difficult questions and I’m not sure I have the answer to them. I do know that I think Lupita is a breath of fresh air and I enjoy seeing her on the screen. Personally, I would like to help redefine the narrow definition of beauty that is so prominent in Hollywood and society as a whole. How can we do this? We can continue to support all of our brown and black actresses in Hollywood. We can write to directors, producers, casting agents and the like advocating for broader roles for our dark skinned sisters! Most importantly, we can stop dividing ourselves among these ridiculous lines. I hate it when I see a beautiful black woman boasting #TeamLightSkin or #TeamBrownSkin in their Twitter, IG or w/e else bio. So what? By all means be proud of who you are, but we need to recognize the implications of our actions and the messages we are sending to those outside of our community.
All I mean to say is that Lupita is only “too black” for Hollywood because we allow her to be.
Find the full text version of the article referenced here.
April 2, 2014 § Leave a comment
It’s so funny how life comes full circle. Here I was thinking I was creating an entirely new blog (this is about my 3rd attempt to do this) when a page I created almost two years ago popped up. It’s so crazy to me how I have grown in such a short period of time! What surprised me the most was what I wrote in my first (and only) post. I bragged about “wreaking havoc” in NYC and “changing the world one betch at a time.” LOL Seriously?! Who was I? Well, I still don’t know who I am entirely. But, i do know that I am an unapologetic black feminist law student that is obsessed with popular culture and fashion. And I’m okay with that. :)